The internet is a wonderful place, it’s a wealth of ideas, inspiration, tips, recommendations and discoveries. However, when you’re planning a wedding this can be a very sharp and pointy double-edged sword. One of my lovely brides recently experienced this when it came to choosing her on-the-day stationery and I thought it might be useful to share my thoughts on how to make it through.
When I got engaged three years ago, we decided that the less time we had to plan our wedding the better. We just wanted to get married, and keep the budget under control, so I knew that the less time I had to plan, and more importantly, change my mind, the better. So we did it in six months, start to finish. It stressed out a lot of people (especially a fair few wedding dress shops) but it kept me in control and kept my focus on the end goal rather than risking wandering off down a beautiful, floral-filled, expensive Pinterest rabbit hole. It worked for me.
But, where’s the fun in getting married if you can’t take the time and effort to make it your own? To utilise your own talents, or those of the multitude of talented wedding suppliers? With a little focus and a few strategies, you can create the wedding you want without the blinding panic of having too much choi
1. Trust Your Gut
What you land on first, or keep coming back to after multiple diversions, is usually where the magic is. Trust that and go with it. But if you’re still waivering, read on…
2. Get An Expert Opinion
If you can’t get there on your own, speak to someone who can help. They will have the experience and perhaps a little more creative vision, as well as a lot less emotional investment, to help you make your choices. This is why it’s important to work with suppliers you like and feel you can trust, so you can trust their advice and that they’re not simply sign-posting you to the most expensive option. Spend your time researching and choosing the right person to be on your team. And when it comes to choosing that person, always refer back to point one…
3. Take a Tip From Coco Chanel
She said those wise, wise words ‘before you leave the house, look in the mirror and remove one accessory’. I’m a firm believer in keeping things simple and less is more - the same goes for wedding decor and wedding planning in general. Allow your most things to shine. Pick your priority areas and focus on them - flowers, tableware, stationery (obviously the most important…) and make sure that everything is complementing that and allowing that to look its best. If you choose the best quality creative items for your wedding, you won’t need a thousand more things to sit alongside it.
4. Mock It Up
Sometimes we have so many options and elements to bring together that it’s hard to envision what it’s all going to look like - mocking it up as best you can is a great way to start. Even if it’s just bringing colours together or deciding on the sizes of things, seeing them together really helps. Turn your dining table into your wedding venue, borrow crockery and linen in the right sizes and colours and play around with them. You’ll likely find that your plans were perfect in the first place but now you know and can rest on your decisions. Obviously, if your venue will let you do it with them, even better!
5. Fresh Eyes
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, rushed, panicked or some combination of all three, take a step back. Speak to your suppliers and explain how you feel - they’ll help you or respect that you need a little time. Unless you’ve got a really pressing deadline (things going to print, dresses or flowers being ordered, for example) take a little time, take a deep breath, refer back to point one (and two, and three, and four) and you’ll find what feels right.
This is the advice I gave my confused bride and I hope she found it helpful - I hope you found it useful too. And remember, use all the help you can get to plan your wedding; you’ll give yourself a rest and they’ll love being a part of it all.